Sunday, February 11, 2018

About Self-Love & Why It Changes Everything.

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(The perfect Duo Light Up Case for some "Selfie"-Love by LuMee | The Selfie above has been shot on a very gloomy day and yet it looks like the perfect lighting thanks to my LuMee case!)

I had so much fun writing my post about positive thinking, so I decided to talk about another topic that is pretty important to me and should be to you aswell. Self-love. Sounds pretty selfish, right? I always feel like practicing self-love has this negative stigma. A lot of people see it as egoistic, self-centered or narcissistic. Like a lot of people may see taking a pretty selfie as such too. But we all know it's simply about having fun and capturing happy moments, right? The same goes for self-love. Ironically, it is the complete opposite of being selfish. You need to take care of yourself in order to be a good colleague, girlfriend, mother or whatever role you are currently fulfilling.

Imagine yourself after a week, with loads of work and zero time for yourself. Can you pay full attention to your partner or your boss? I don't think so. Now imagine yourself after an evening you spend pampering yourself. You are way more content, relaxed and happy, right? Can others fell that? OH YES! 

So why do we still feel guilty when we take the night off and choose NOT to go out with friends in order to put on a facemask and meditate. Or why do we feel guilty when we say no to working another late night even though we already worked a lot of over hours that week? Well, I think we are conditioned to always please others, always make them think the best of us, so we can think we are useful and worth it. But guess what, you are equally as worth it when you take much needed time for yourself! Your worthiness doesn't change with the hours you have worked, with the amount of nights-out you share with your friends or how "productive" others think you are being. 

Self-love doesn't even have to take out a huge chunk of your day, but if you want to take a whole day for yourself.. do it! However, you can also start with very small things. The key: See yourself as your best friend! And by "yourself" I mean your physical & mental health. 

Self-love is...
... working out because you have sat on the desk the whole day
... going on holidays, even if you feel like you can't take time off work
... choosing the good food that you know will nourish your body instead of the fast option
... switching off the phone in the evening to read a book instead
... going on walks when you feel overwhelmed
... meditating first thing in the morning for 10 minutes to clear your mind
... cleaning out your apartment (and your mind simultaneously)
... watching Netflix the whole day without even feeling guilty about it
... or simply taking some time off "the real" world and play around with your phone, taking selfies and shots of your food for Instagram.. because: Why not? 

And recently I have found a way to make taking selfies even more fun! I bet you all know the LuMee cases because of the Kardashians, right? Well, I definitely did. BUT they now also have the Duo version, which not only illuminates your face with LEDs on the front of your phone but also puts the pictures you take with the back camera in the right light. And because practising self-love is also treating yourself to a few new things from time to time.. why not treat yourself to a new phone case that is actually useful AND pretty? 

To conclude.. Self-Love is saying NO to things and saying YES to other things. If you listen closely and treat yourself as you would your best friend you will know what you need. Sophie Rosie has another great post about it and Lydia talks about all the small luxuries that can make all the difference. 
And the most important thing that we all like to forget? Talk kindly to yourself.. Listen to how you communicate with yourself. Would you tell your bestie that she is too fat, too lazy, too stupid, or simply not good enough? NO! So why would you tell these things to yourself over and over again? Encourage yourself, be kind and if there is something you need to change... criticize constructively. 

xx Lisa




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  1. Ein toller Artikel. Nur wer sich selbst liebt kann meiner meinung nach auch lieben. Das wir alle ein bisschen mehr auf uns achten sollten ist auch klar. Ich wünsche Dir einen schönen Sonntag.

    Liebe Grüße, Esther
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  2. Yes yes yes!!

    I find hard to say no sometimes. I love to help people, but sometimes I am so exhausted (due to work, personal issues, etc) and there's always someone wanting endless attention. I had to start saying "I'm sorry, but I am not okay today". (and yes, not everyone understands it....)

    My goal for 2018 is to also be good at maintaining a good relationship with myself. Eating good, sleeping the nice amount of hours and not let myself slip into too many dark situations that aren't my ally.

    Take care! Have a nice day!

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    1. I agree Diana... it's hard to say no but so important!

      xx Lisa

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  3. Self love is so important! And it's always important to treat yourself every now and then because we all need it. I love your points.
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  4. I'm all about the self care this year - it's so important and can make such a big difference to our wellbeing and happiness x

    Jenny | Luxestyle

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    1. YES! Let 2018 be the year of self care :)

      xx Lisa

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  5. Such a great and important message Lisa!!
    XOXO
    Jodie
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  6. So true... I always believe that before you love anyone, you must love yourself first. Beautiful article.

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    1. YES YES YES! Totally agree hun!

      xx Lisa

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  7. This is a very wise and engaging post. I totally agree with your recommendations. If we don’t take care of ourselves we cannot be happy and responsible for the people that we love. Thank you for sharing this!
    ❤️❤️❤️
    Elle
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    1. Ah this made my day! THANK YOU!

      xx Lisa

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  8. This post was great! So reflective and great advice to take.
    Noelle
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    1. I am so happy you liked it Noelle!

      xx Lisa

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  9. Such a well written post! Like you said, self love is not selfish at all. It's so important to take care of yourself as well, otherwise you'll end up overwhelmed and not being able to function properly. Sometimes something as small as blow drying my hair is good way to just get my mind off things. Usually I'm all about doing something physical such as the gym because that works best for me personally. But every now and then I try to do something more relaxing, such a face mask and painting my nails. I rarely blow dry my hair so that's why it feels like a little nice boost for me.

    I loved your post of the things you learned about fitness because it's so relatable, just like this post. I very often turn to cleaning and organising as well when I'm overwhelmed, it really helps to declutter the mind.

    -Sophie xx | Cherries & Perfume 

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    1. Yes hun.. I totally agree... and I am so happy you could relate to my thoughts :)

      xx Lisa

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  10. Wow your blog is so beautiful! a very well written post :)

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  11. Self-love is such an important thing to learn. I feel like when you learn you can actually be happy.
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  12. self love is the mos important kind of love and my me time days are so important to me. just having time to eat my breakfast, working out and being by myself.
    ❤︎

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    1. YES ELENA! Love your kind of me time!

      xx Lisa

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  13. Great post, thanks for sharing! Self love is so important!

    Camille xo

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  14. I love your positive post!

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  15. I think mental health is so important, and truly being happy with yourself makes such a difference in your life. I don't think it's selfish either, since in the end it also helps with the interactions you have with others when you feel good in your own skin. This was a lovely read!

    Sending light & love your way,

    My Lovelier Days

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    1. YES totally agree on this Diana :)

      xx Lisa

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  16. Self love and taking time for yourself is honestly so imnportant! Great post babe!
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  17. Does pancakes count as good food to nourish the body today? Lovely post, really enjoyed reading :) xx

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    1. OF COURSE pancakes count haha :)

      xx Lisa

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  18. You're so right with that list! Mindfulness should always be our top priority and no matter what we decide to do with our time we should never feel guilty about it!

    XX from Germany
    Jecky
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  19. I loved this post. It's so important to take care of yourself and yet so easy to get overwhelmed and forget to do so!
    I totally agree with your recommendations and I love that phone case!
    Julia x
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    1. Ah thank you gorgeous.. LuMee is the best!

      xx Lisa

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  20. Love this! So pink and perfect!

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  21. Great post, dear Lisa. I learned it through Meditation, when I noticed that many things were wrong in my life and I needed to change them - I had to Change myself first and learned thing letting go.
    xx Vera
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  22. Thank you for sharing this message, I have always struggled with loving myself. But I am learning and embracing self love day by day. In fact I too am dedicating a post to self love for Valentine's Day cos' it indeed is very important.
    Hope you're having a lovely Valentine's week <3
    xx
    Ankita
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    1. You are so sweet.. thanks Ankita!

      xx Lisa

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  23. I love this message, sometimes I can be so negeative and I think it is important to appeciate yourself
    xo
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  24. Self Love - This is interesting, never thought about it. Well written thought provoking article, thanks for sharing.

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  25. Such an important topic, and reminder to take care of ourselves! I think people often forget that self love looks different for everyone. Self love keeps us grounded and positive, and what could be wrong with that?

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  27. Lisa! what an inspiring and uplifting post babe! You are so so right! Nothing else matters. all starts with self love!!thank you for this post!

    xxx

    Ashley

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    1. Awww Ashley you are always the sweetest! Thanks hun!

      xx Lisa

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  28. Now this is a lovely read. Such a beautiful reminder. Thanks for sharing dear! You look pretty as always!

    Jessica | notjessfashion.com

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    1. You are so sweet Jessica! Thank you!

      xx Lisa

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  29. I'm a huge advocate for self-love! And anyone who calls you selfish for taking care of yourself when you need to is not a person I believe should be in your life. If you can't take care of yourself, you can't take care of someone else

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  30. Self-love is really the biggest key to happiness and confidence imo. Before you can give love, you definitely need to learn to love yourself as well.

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  31. I love the message that this post leaves !. I loved it.
    xo

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    1. This is so sweet.. thank you!

      xx Lisa

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  32. I still sometimes find it hard to love and take care of myself, especially whenever I'm depressed. Thank you so much for sharing this though! I hope I'll be able to become better at developing self-care habits :)

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    1. It's so important hun.. everyone should work on it :) I hope you are well XX

      xx Lisa

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  33. Lisa, this post is wonderful. I'm so happy you're talking about self-care and giving it the attention it deserves. Also LOVE the styling of these photos, great aesthetic.

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  34. hey dear,i like your post, it's a so important details,Amazing write-up,thanks for sharing.....

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  35. What an inspiring and relevant topic. I agree that self-care is important. That is in fact how I interpret the concept of self love. It is very important to take time for our selves and exercise. If we rush all the time then we are missing so many important things in life. I think I’m also due for a Netflix binge !
    ❤️❤️❤️
    Elle
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    1. Aw Elle this is so sweet to read! Thank you so much!

      xx Lisa

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  36. So sweet!
    Angie
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Thank you! xx